by admin on December 1, 2009
Choosing a first date idea from the many first date ideas that others have used successfully can be a good move, but you do need to make sure it is something that you are comfortable with. For example, don’t go swimming if you really don’t like that activity. You need to do something that reflects your interests, and confirms who you actually are, not who you would like to be.
Many of the first date ideas do depend on your current location. If you live in a hot sunny climate near a beach, then you can use the beach as a first date, knowing that the weather is unlikely to change your plans. However, if you live somewhere colder, and wetter, then choosing an indoor location could be a smart move. Not too many people enjoy being soaked to the skin on a first date!
Now, a lot of first dates seem to be to go to see a movie, which really surprises me. How can you get to know someone if you can’t talk to them? Sure, a movie does give you something in common to talk about afterward, but if you are really find it that hard to talk to someone, then other activities may be better for you.
If the weather is likely to be decent, then a walk along a beach, or a river bank can give you the chance to talk, or a trip to a park, or a crazy golf course, where your score really doesn’t matter. It is the activity, while finding out about the new person in your life that is importnat, not who wins. Stay away from sports like golf, unless you know for sure that your date does play golf, and even then it might be better for a later date. First dates can be anxious times, and it probably won’t help your score any!
Billiards or pool can be agood idea, provided all your guy friends are not around, but do be careful, not everyone wants to try a new sport on a first date. Keep away from activites like hiking that will have you both sweating and out of breath, huffing and ouffing is not all that appealing!
If the weather is good, then a picnic can give you both the chance to talk, in any location you choose, and it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg either. Some stores will make up picnic baskets for you, but it doesn’t need a lot of imagination to come up with a few treats, to share in the wonderful outdoors.
If you have an amusement park close by, your first date could be there, although these can tend to get expensive by the time you add everything up. You do not want to end up in debt over this first date.
What about the arts scene? Or a pub lunch? Or a drive to a local tourist spot? In fact touring the city where you live can be fun, and is something that not everyone has done. It is always fun to see your city through the eyes of a visitor.
The safe date is always a meal at a mid range restaurant, or perhaps you just want to meet for a coffee and see how that goes first, but plan an extension to this in case you both want to extend the time together.
You don’t want to go high end and end up having to do something better than that later, but nor do you want to go the fast food route, so just go with something that feels comfortable, so that you and your date can relax, and enjoy one anothers company.
So think carefully abkut your first date ideas, and choose one that feels good to you, and all should go well for you both.
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by admin on December 1, 2009
The question of what to wear on a first date always comes up as soon as an occasion is mentioned, and it’s not just the females asking this any more! Gents are often wanting to make a good impression too. Now, it is important to present yourself well, because good impressions do still count, but as to what you wear, that depends on a few things.
First of all, you need to wear something that you are comfortable in, and that is appropriate for the activity that you will be doing. If you are going to be paddling a canoe, then you won’t want to be wearing high heels, or a short tight dress, if you are a female, so you do need to know ahead of time what you are going to be doing.
I’m all in favor of a smart but casual appearance for a first date, not going to a top class restaurant, since who knows whether that is something your date would be comfortable with, and whether they would say anything to you ahead of time too. Yes, it is nice to eat in top class restaurants, but for a first date, I don’t think it is necessary at all. Moving up to a classy restaurant meal is something that you can look forward to doing when you know one another better. This also means that you do not need to have an expensive outfit for this first date, just something that is comfortable, and represents who you are.
Now if the first date is at a beach, then you might want to find out ahead of time whether your date is comfortable swimming in the sea, or whether they would just prefer a stroll along the beach. Be aware that not everyone enjoys swimming, and not everyone is comfortable going swimming with someone they hardly know. Similarly, taking someone to a sports event might be something you will enjoy, but are you sure about this for your date? Maybe they are too shy to tell you it is not something they are likely to enjoy.
Whatever plans you make, be sure to tell your date what to expect so that they can dress appropriately for the occasion. No one likes to turn up wearing something that is out of line for the occasion, so make sure you are explicit about the necessary attire for your date – it will help.
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by admin on December 1, 2009
For those people looking for advice bout their first date, try not to stress over it, otherwise there very well could be a lot of first dates! Just relax and be yourself. Don’t try to be someone that you are not. Use good manners throughout the date, listen to your date, ask a few questions, but also give your date chance to ask questions too, if they choose to do so.
Dating is all about getting to know the other person, and you do this by communicating, having a two way conversation, so make sure you do not spend the whole time talking about yourself! You need to make your date feel comfortable with you, so choose somewhere that is open and public for the first date. It is a sad state of affairs, but safety has to be a concern these days, so meeting someone new should be in a place that is safe for both of you to be.
Of course now there are even more concerns with online dating becoming so popular. Unfortunately you can pretend to be whoever you wish with the online dating services, and it is easy to present a person with a personality you would like rather than the one you have. This means that if you consider going on online dates, then you need to put some kind of security in place.
For online dating, and really this applies to any dating unfortunately, make sure that some one knows who you are supposed to be meeting, when and where, and if possible leave the email address or a phone number of the person you are to meet with a friend. This may seem ultra cautious, but these days, you just never know who you are dealing with, and what type of a person they really are when they are not sat in front of a computer screen.
With the advancement in online dating, it now opens up whole new areas of the country for your dates to be living in. Now you can restrict this area, and you might choose to, but think carefully about whether you want a long distance relationship, before you get involved with one. This kind of dating can be very difficult on both parties involved, and there has to be a great deal of trust when you cannot get together casually at any time during the week.
For online dating, you need to find out a great deal about the person you hope to date, and when the time comes to meet, take some sensible security precautions. Meet in a public place, making your own way there, and make sure it is somewhere that you can get home from easily afterward, using your own method of transport. Of course, we hope that everything will go well for you, but you do need to be cautious for sure.
Talk to your date and make sure that there are no red flags raised about what he or she wrote online, and what you are hearing in person.
You can still be friendly, but you do need to know who you are getting involved with. And don’t forget to ask whether they are married or not, and whether they ever have been. It is surprising that some think it is ok to omit the fact that they are married, if they are never asked this question! So find out first for sure, and save yourself a lot of heartache.
Then enjoy your first date, knowing you have asked the right questions, and that you do know the person you are interested in dating some more. Of course, you can totally ignore this first date advice, that is your choice for sure, and we hope your dating will be a success for you.
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